>wonders if next time there’s something that needs formal clothes if I could just, like not wear a dress but like a suit or something instead (because fuck dresses)
>Mom comments with an uncomfortable/hesitant “Well, but then people might… Think you don’t… Uh, want to be a girl…”
Wow… that’s a rude reaction. My parents know I don’t like to wear dresses and they don’t question my gender identity about it. Like, you can not like dresses and still identify as a girl, and even if you don’t, WHO REALLY CARES IF YOU LOOK AWESOME IN YOUR SUIT?! THAT’S ALL THAT MATTERS! LOOKING AND FEELING AWESOME!
I just don’t understand at all.
WHY DON’T MORE PEOPLE UNDERSTAND THAT HOW YOU DRESS DOES NOT GUARANTEE INDICATION OF GENDER IDENTITY AND/OR SEXUAL ORIENTATION?!
Besides—the last time I was willingly in a dress was before I could dress myself, I think. Otherwise it’s always been “I’m only wearing this because I legit have no other choice because it’s a formal function and I’ve been bought a dress to wear and can’t afford to get something fancy on my own so I HAVE to wear this”. I don’t do dresses, I never have, they’re uncomfortable.
It’s because some people are just butts about things like that. It’s a sort of “I didn’t grow up with that sort of idea so I do not believe it’s possible”, ya know?